Why Would a Church Hire an Unmarried Pastor?

Your church is in need of a pastor, and as you consider your options, you may wonder whether an unmarried or even a divorced pastor would be the right candidate for the role. This article explores the considerations involved in hiring an unmarried pastor and why it might be worth exploring this possibility further.

Personality and Abilities of a Pastor

When a pastor walks through your church doors, they bring a unique blend of personality, abilities, and disabilities. A pastor, whether married or single, is not a superstar. They are servants who are called by God to lead and shepherd their flock. The Church of Christ, Southern Baptists, and other denominations often have specific criteria and expectations for pastoral leadership, but these criteria can vary widely.

The Role of a Spouse in Pastoral Leadership

The Bible emphasizes the importance of unity and support within a couple. In Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, it is written, ‘Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, one can help the other up. But pity the one who falls and has no one to help them up! Again, if two are lying down together, they keep each other warm, but how can one keep warm alone? Furthermore, a twofold cord is not easily broken.’ This verse emphasizes the strength and support that comes from a partnership.

When a pastor comes with a spouse, they bring not only companionship but also a complementary spirit in ministry. However, this does not mean that an unmarried or divorced pastor is incapable of fulfilling a role. Many successful pastors have thrived in their positions regardless of their marital status.

An Example from My Experience

I served as the youth pastor in my church starting in April 2001. I was a single seminary student at 21, and now, nearly two decades later, I am still in the same position. My church recognized my commitment to God and my passion for youth ministry, which allowed me to serve effectively in this long-term role. While I am Southern Baptist and my church does not typically hire unmarried staff members, it is not an absolute rule across all Baptist churches.

The Southern Baptist Viewpoint

Most Southern Baptist churches do not hire unmarried staff members, nor do they often consider unmarried individuals for roles such as deacon. However, as a deacon, I was ordained despite my unmarried status, although it took some discussion among the existing deacons and the support of the pastor. The phrase ‘husband of one wife’ in biblical contexts is often interpreted to mean that a pastor should be faithful to his one wife rather than being currently married.

The Mormon Viewpoint

In contrast, Mormon leaders generally do not view marital status as a requirement or barrier to pastoral leadership. The spirit and devotion to God remain the primary considerations. As the head of a subgroup within the larger Mormon community, I have seen that leadership qualifications are broad and inclusive.

Key Considerations in Hiring an Unmarried Pastor

When considering whether to hire an unmarried pastor, key considerations include:

Dedication to God: A pastor’s devotion to God and love for humanity should be the primary focus. Experience and Skills: The pastor’s ability to lead, manage, and support your congregation is crucial. Community Impact: How the pastor will impact the broader community and serve as a role model. Compassion and Support: The pastor’s ability to provide emotional and spiritual support to the congregation and community members.

While the spiritual qualities that make a good pastor are not limited to gender, sexual orientation, or relationship history, these factors can undoubtedly influence decisions in many religious contexts.

Conclusion

When evaluating an unmarried or divorced pastor for a pastoral role, it is essential to focus on their spiritual qualities, dedication to God, and ability to support your congregation. While some churches may have strict hiring policies based on marital status, others embrace the unique gifts and strengths that an unmarried or divorced individual can bring to their ministry. By considering these factors, your church can find a pastor who is not only qualified but also well-suited to lead and guide your community.