Why People Call Me a 'Child': Navigating the Transition to Adulthood
The term 'child' can be a bit perplexing when used by those significantly older than you. It is sometimes used as a term of endearment, but it can also stem from ignorance or a need to undermine your experiences and achievements.
Understanding the Term of Endearment
In social circles, older individuals may address younger colleagues or friends with terms like 'kid' or 'youth.' For instance, my 52-year-old friend and I have a friendly relationship where he affectionately addresses me as 'kid.' It's easy to chuckle off such nicknames, just as he does in response to my playful teasing.
It's important to recognize that this term can be used both lovingly and insensitively. Some older individuals may unintentionally assign you a younger status due to their own misunderstandings or underestimations of life experiences.
Perceptions and Underestimations
Even if you are in your 30s or 40s, it's not uncommon for people to underestimate your life experience. This can happen, especially with older individuals who may not fully understand the dynamics and challenges of contemporary life. However, it's essential to recognize that everyone, regardless of age, had to start from a similar point of inexperience when they were younger.
Reflect on my own journey. In my twenties, I faced occasional underestimations from people who incorrectly believed I was still in my teens. Now, at 42, people sometimes assume I'm in my 20s. Life is full of surprises, and such perceptions are a part of the multifaceted human experience.
The Transition to Adulthood
When you reach the age of 21, it's a milestone that marks the beginning of a new chapter in your life. Legally, you become an adult, and now the journey of independent living truly begins. However, do not be fooled into thinking that this is the end of your learning process. Just as you learned the finer points of driving after obtaining your license, so too will you discover the deeper aspects of adulthood.
At 21, you'll be confronted with the consequences of your decisions, both positive and negative. You'll face challenges and gain a profound understanding of the world around you. Yet, it's crucial to understand that your early twenties are the very start of a lifelong process of learning and growth.
As life progresses into your thirties, your perspectives broaden and evolve. By the age of 30, you might have shifted from focusing on personal growth to considering the wider society. Your reflections on life and your place in the world might expand to include how individuals, communities, and even the environment are interconnected.
Egocentric Behavior and Overconfidence
Another significant aspect of the transition to adulthood is the gradual shift from an egocentric view to a more empathetic and reflective one. From around 15 to 20, many individuals tend to view themselves as more mature and knowledgable. However, this perception can be a form of egocentrism, where you focus excessively on your own experiences and opinions.
As you move into your late 20s and 30s, your focus shifts inward to self-reflection. You begin to see yourself as a part of a broader community. You inevitably experience the contraction of your own world, transforming your view from being primarily concerned with yourself to considering the needs and perspectives of those around you, including neighbors and family members.
By the time you reach 30, your perspective might further widen to encompass society as a whole, including issues related to the environment and the planet. This expanding view is a significant milestone in the development of a mature and empathetic individual.
It's important to remember that just because you think you know everything, it doesn't mean you do. Egocentric behavior, characterized by overconfidence and a narrow focus, is a common phenomenon at this stage of life. To grow, you must challenge these tendencies by focusing on personal growth, respecting others' perspectives, and maintaining a lifelong commitment to learning and self-improvement.
Final Thoughts on Self-Reflection and Growth
Ultimately, the journey to maturity is filled with ups and downs. While you might feel overly confident in your knowledge and abilities, it's crucial to maintain humility and a willingness to learn and grow. Avoid getting caught up in commenting on or getting affected by what others are saying about you. Instead, focus on personal growth, strives to understand your mistakes, and work towards a better understanding of the world around you.
Falling in love, drinking, or smoking may seem appealing, but they can have long-term impacts on your life and health. Prioritize developing yourself and maintaining a balanced, healthy lifestyle. Your future success and well-being depend on your ability to make informed and thoughtful decisions.
Remember my words: take time to reflect on your journey, stay grounded, and focus on your personal growth. The more you do so, the more resilient and well-prepared you will be for the challenges that lie ahead in life.