Why Did Jesus Ask the 12 Apostles to Abandon Their Wives and Families? A Closer Look
Introduction
The question of why Jesus asked the 12 apostles to abandon their wives and families to follow Him is one of the most debated topics in Christian history. Many assume that Jesus required His disciples to give up everything, including their families, to fully dedicate themselves to His teachings. However, historical and scriptural evidence shows a more nuanced understanding of their journeys and commitments.
Historical and Scriptural Context
It is widely believed that the 12 apostles, including Peter, did indeed leave their families and homes to follow Jesus. This is supported by the Gospel of Matthew, where Peter says, “We have left everything to follow you!” (Matthew 19:27).
However, the evidence for each apostle leaving his family is sparse. For instance, we are certain that Peter had a mother-in-law who was healed by Jesus (Mark 1:29-31), indicating that Jesus at least knew some details about Peter’s family life.
Interim Ethic and Single-Minded Focus
Jesus often emphasized the importance of dedication. In the letter to Peter, he once assured the apostles, ‘Are you not aware that those who are regarded as ruling the Gentile world compel them to live in submission? Yet you are not to be like that. Do not even think that you are better than others. Instead, let those who are your leaders seem to be as servants. Since the shepherds of this flock, who are supposed to be examples to the flock, will have to give an account on the day of reckoning, not only to God but through me, they must be careful how they conduct themselves. They are to shepherd the flock of God that is entrusted to them, not because they are being forced to do it, but because they are eager to do it’ (1 Peter 5:3-4).
During the period of resistance against Roman rule, Jesus, drawing from the example of Judas Maccabeus, advised His followers to focus on the Temple and the greater struggle against oppression (2 Maccabees 15:18). He taught them to prioritize the sacred mission and communal faith over personal family concerns.
The Aftermath of Resurrection
Following the resurrection and ascension, the apostles eventually returned to their families. Nevertheless, they continued their missions by preaching and establishing the church in Jerusalem. This highlights the balance between personal faith and ongoing commitment to the kingdom of God.
In the later years of the apostles, their families often remained in Jerusalem, as depicted in the Acts of the Apostles (Acts 12:17, 13:45, 20:25-27).
Conclusion
While the notion of apostolic commitment often produces images of total detachment from family, the historical and scriptural evidence reveals a more complex narrative. Jesus encouraged absolute devotion, but also recognized the importance of family and communal support. As Florin noted, this cannot be seen as callous or cruel, but rather as a guide for single-minded dedication to a greater cause.
Thank you for considering this perspective. Your questions help us deepen our understanding of Christian teachings.