The Enchanting Nature of Narcissists

Narcissists are often fascinating at first glance, thanks to their charismatic and charming personalities. Their ability to captivate people initially is a result of their use of charm, confidence, and charisma. At the beginning of a relationship, they may shower their targets with attention, flattery, and compliments, making the other person feel special and cherished. These actions create a magnetic appeal that draws the other person deeper into the dynamic.

Emotional Thinking in Empaths

Empaths, individuals with heightened emotional sensitivity and a deep capacity for empathy, may find it particularly challenging when dealing with narcissists. Emotional thinking, a phenomenon that occurs and intensifies when an empath continues to engage with a narcissist, plays a significant role in this dynamic. This emotional fog does not serve the empath's best interest; instead, its sole purpose is to influence the empath to continue the relationship with the narcissist.

Emotional thinking corrupts the empath's natural empathic and narcissistic traits in a way that makes the empath find excuses for or justify the continuation of the interaction with the narcissist. This corruption is not concerned with the empath's health or welfare; rather, it ensures that the empath remains engaged and continues to feed their addiction.

The Addiction to Narcissists

Empaths are often drawn to narcissists because the narcissistic personality provides an opportunity for empaths to express their empathic traits. Empaths have an innate desire to show and cultivate their empathetic qualities, and the most effective, albeit unhealthy, way to do so is through engagement with a narcissist. Each time a narcissist behaves in a certain way, the empathic traits are exhibited, creating a sense of fulfillment and, unfortunately, addiction.

When a narcissist lies, the empathic trait of honesty is expressed. When a narcissist engages in love-bombing, the empathic trait of a devoted lover is displayed. When a narcissist presents themselves as broken, the empathic trait of wanting to heal and fix surfaces.

Therefore, every new encounter with a narcissist heightens the empath's emotional thinking, increasing their desire for continued interaction. Emotional thinking is not a binding force - one does not have to listen to it - but it creates a compelling sense that continues the interaction, one manifestation being the enchanting feeling it generates.

Understanding the dynamics between an empath and a narcissist is crucial for anyone seeking to navigate and potentially escape such relationships. By recognizing the patterns and the emotional traps, one can work towards breaking free from the cycle of addiction and fostering healthier connections.