Understanding the Desire to Know How Others Perceive Us
Many of us wonder, is it weird to care about how others perceive us? The answer is no, it is completely natural to seek validation and positive affirmations from those around us. This article explores why it's normal to desire how others view us, and how to navigate these feelings in a constructive manner.
The Normalcy of Caring About What Others Think
It's perfectly natural and expected for us to want people to think well of us. No one wants to be perceived in a negative light, such as being considered a ‘cheater’ or a ‘psychopath’. We strive to present ourselves in a positive light and make sure that those around us see us in a favorable manner. This is not about being a people-pleaser; it is about seeking validation and belonging.
Positive Feedback from Good People
Those in good company are more likely to appreciate and affirm your behavior. However, be cautious of how you interpret others’ feedback. Often, we let our insecurities convince us that their opinions matter more than they do. Consistently checking in with others' perceptions can be a slippery slope towards self-doubt and anxiety.
The Cowardice Behind Seeking Validation
What Others’ Opinions Shouldn’t Define You
It is far more disconcerting when individuals do not focus on their own self-worth and value. It's critical that you prioritize your own thoughts and feelings over the opinions of others. Your self-worth should come from within, not from external validation. Surrendering your self-definition to others can be a sign of fear and insecurity, leading to a sense of cowardice.
The Power Dynamic and Takeback Self-Confidence
Who has the right to define you? It is you who holds the power to decide who you are and what value you bring to the world. No one else can determine your self-worth; you are the architect of your own life. Here are some key questions to consider:
When did others gain the power to define you? Why did you give this power to others? How did this happen? Who can take back your self-pride and confidence? When and how will you take back the power of self-definition?Taking Back Control
The right to form an opinion about yourself is paramount. The Law of Attraction suggests that you will attract what you focus on. By focusing on your strengths and positive qualities, you will attract positive feedback and validation. Taking back your power starts with recognizing that you are the only one who can ultimately decide who you are and how you are perceived.
Your life is unique, and it is your responsibility to shape it. Your truth is not pre-determined; it is created through fairness and kindness. There are no pre-made life plans you are required to meet; instead, you create your own goals. The journey of self-discovery and self-worth is one that you must undertake, with pride and honesty leading the way.
It's time to discard the power others have over you. Recognize that you allowed them to have this control and take the necessary steps to reclaim it now and for the rest of your life.