The Nuances of Saying 'Thank You' to Veterans in America
Do Americans say 'Thank you for your service' or 'Thank you for serving'? This is not just a matter of semantics but a touchy issue in a nation deeply rooted in military service and sacrifice. Read on to understand the reasons behind these variations.
Understanding the Sentiment Behind "Thank You for Your Service"
First off, let's delve into the heart of the matter. Everyone I’ve seen and known replies with a thank you back, but my response is not rote. When someone says, ‘Thank you for your service,’ I stop them, hold up my hand, and say, 'NO, I owe you thanks for paying your taxes.' This is because my service and those who stayed in the military did it because we wanted to, but your taxes kept us well equipped and to this day, pay for my retirement, disability pay, and medical care. You are the one who should be thanked.' This is a genuine sentiment that goes a long way in making veterans feel appreciated.
The Perspective of a Military Veteran
In my experience, I, a former Army veteran who served for seven years, find it more polite to say 'Thank you for your service' rather than the slightly more trivial 'Thank you for serving,' which can make the service seem like a casual duty rather than a demanding job.
Socially, many veterans find phrases like 'Thank you for your service' to be hollow. This stems from the history of Vietnam, where the war was deeply unpopular and veterans were often spat upon upon their return. It took dedication and a shift in cultural perception to change this view, with the military industry embracing a narrative of heroism to encourage enlistment in an all-volunteer force.
The Evolution of Military Service Appreciation
From 1974 to 1989, I registered for the draft and joined the military out of choice, not obligation. The Vietnam War, with its immense unpopularity and brutal backlash, created a stark contrast to today's perspective. Military service is now seen as a heroic endeavor, symbolized by the playing of 'The Star-Spangled Banner' at football games and the deployment of military jets before sporting events. These symbolic gestures reflect a society that actively identifies with its military.
However, while such gestures are well-intentioned, they often feel like a social obligation rather than genuine appreciation. Many veterans find these phrases to be reflexive and meaningless, akin to saying 'Bless you' after someone sneezes. There is an unspoken assumption that saying 'Thank you for your service' equates to absolving oneself of the responsibility of similar service.
Conclusion and Call-to-Action
In conclusion, whether one says 'Thank you for your service' or 'Thank you for serving' can reflect the depth of their understanding and appreciation. While there may not be a clear grammatical difference, the sentiment behind these phrases can vary greatly.
If you feel you truly owe a veteran gratitude for their service, make it count. Often, a simple conversation or offering a genuine ear can make a profound difference. But if you're saying it out of social obligation, perhaps it's time to consider alternatives to show your respect and gratitude in a meaningful way.
As a veteran, I understand that service is often a duty not chosen but demanded. My hope is that through thoughtful reflection, we can ensure that words of thanks are more than just empty phrases and contribute to a society that truly values and supports those who have chosen to serve.