The Myth of the Drunken Call: Should You Answer?
Has your ex-girlfriend been calling you almost every month when she's drunk, leaving you feeling perpetually pulled back into an unwanted past relationship? If you're not answering her calls because you haven't blocked her yet, this is a signal that it's time to take action. These calls often stem from a deep-seated issue and regret on her part, but they are ultimately unhelpful and draining.
Understanding the Motivation Behind Drunken Calls
When your ex-girlfriend calls you in a drunken state, she is likely pouring out her heart and rehearsing her regrets, with one of them being the loss of you. Her calls stem from unresolved feelings and a drinking problem that has not been adequately addressed. Here’s the reality: while you may empathize with her occasionally, her issues are not your responsibility, and may be impeding your personal growth and well-being.
The Benefits of Cutting Off Contact
It's time to take the high road and address the situation head-on. Instead of constantly addressing her drunken state and the reasons behind her calls, you can take a proactive stance. Send a clear and firm message with a sobering text that outlines your decision to go no contact:
"Ex! I should have made it clear at the time we broke up that I prefer to go no contact. Our relationship has been over with for over a year now. So I am sure you will agree it's time. I wish you all the best going forward."
This approach helps you set boundaries and ensures she understands where you stand. By blocking her number, you are giving her the message that you no longer wish to be a part of her life or her drunken fantasies.
Consequences of Answering Drunken Calls
Every time you answer her calls, you are prolonging a situation that is unhealthy both for her and for you. By allowing her to continue this pattern, you might inadvertently be reinforcing her behavior. Your ex may believe that you still have feelings for her and may continue to feel sorry for herself, rather than taking meaningful steps towards moving forward.
Additionally, people often romanticize the past or idealize their exes, especially when they are under the influence. Temptation to reconnect may arise, but it will only serve to complicate her journey towards self-improvement. If you really want to help her, you must be unavailable.
Why It's Best to End the Friendship
People often hold onto their ex-girlfriends rather than forging new paths. You are not only helping her but also yourself. Being unavailable shows that you value your own future and present well-being. It sends a clear message that you are not willing to engage in a friendship with someone who is still mired in the past.
Friendships with ex-partners can be fraught with complications, leading to misunderstandings and unnecessary stress. If you start to return to an "ex-friendship," you risk leading her to believe that you want to get back together. This can cause more emotional turmoil than it solves.
Final Thoughts
Ultimately, the best course of action is to go no contact and block her. By doing so, you are helping her to move forward and prioritize her own growth and well-being. Take the advice of those who know and ensure that you protect your emotional state and future. Here's to a brighter and healthier future for both of you.
Keywords: ex girlfriend, drunk call, no contact