The Moment I Realized I Could No Longer Be With My Ex

For a long time, I maintained contact with an ex who had cheated on me and manipulated me into believing I was the reason our relationship ended. This was a huge mistake on my part. Over time, his behavior became intolerable. I had a narrow mindset, and he took advantage of that to believe I was the reason things ended.

Manipulative Behavior and Relationship Dynamics

He claimed that he couldn't stay with me but continued to contact me, asking about my personal life, showing possessiveness when I dated others, and even attempted to date me for fun. When I asked him about his girlfriend, his explanations were confusing and inconsistent. He claimed their relationship was 'casual' and 'for fun,' but evidence from her social media profile told a different story.

Finding the Truth

One day, one of his friends showed me a post where he and his 'casual friend' declared their love for each other, which finally answered the questions I had been asking myself. I didn't reach out to him afterward, but he did. He attempted to manipulate me by repeating the same lies and shifting blame. This was the moment I realized he would never let me move on. He was trying to corner me, using me for emotional support and to be a tissue to wipe away his tears when no one else was available.

Mental Health and Professional Guidance

His presence in my life was ruining my mental health. I consulted a renowned therapist who informed me that my ex had a case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I was advised to avoid him completely to prevent any further negative impact on my life. Whether he is a narcissist or not, the fact remains that he deserved no place in my life.

Ending the Contact

I had had enough of his lies and manipulations. From that day forward, I made a conscious decision to disconnect from him entirely. I stopped talking to him, no longer stalked him, and ignored his calls or texts. While there have been times when I felt bad about being cheated and manipulated, I understand that being in contact with him would be an injustice to myself.

Conclusion

That moment of realization was the time I knew definitively that our relationship was over. The constant lies and manipulation, combined with the damage to my mental health, finally made me realize that I could no longer be with such a person. It was a difficult decision, but one that was necessary for my well-being and emotional health.