The Inevitability of Judgment: Can We Avoid Criticizing Others?

Can we truly not judge people? Is it possible to operate in a world where we do not pass any form of evaluation, critique, or condemnation on others? While it might seem appealing to believe that we can avoid these tendencies, the reality is that judgment is an inherent and nearly constant aspect of the human experience.

Why We Judge

Psychologically, judgment is a fundamental part of how we process information and navigate our social environment. It is a natural and automatic response driven by our evolutionary history and the human psyche. Our brains have been designed to identify threats and hierarchies, including which individuals belong to our social group (the tribe) and which do not. This built-in mechanism is crucial for survival and social interaction.

Personal Reflections on Judgment

I believe in the idea of not judging others, rooted in my Christian faith that emphasizes putting others first. However, I must admit that it is challenging to live up to this ideal. One recent incident on TV deeply resonated with me. I watched a show about individuals who had been scammed out of thousands or even tens of thousands of pounds through love scams. I found myself constantly feeling disappointed and questioning their decisions during the situations presented. Unfortunately, my judgment was triggered without having experienced such a scenario myself.

Unlearning Judgment

It is not impossible to change judgment, although it is a challenging process. Judgments are learned behaviors that can be unlearned with effort. An old saying often circulates: “It’s hard to unlearn something we’ve always known.” But the brain has the remarkable ability to rewire itself, following the principles of neuroplasticity. Changing anything, including learned judgments, requires conscious effort, awareness, and a deep commitment to the process.

The human brain, like a muscle, can be trained. If you persistently practice a new behavior, the old neural pathways fade, and new ones are formed. It's a gradual process that can take time, but it is achievable. However, there may be setbacks or breakthrough moments where old patterns resurface. The key is to remain committed to the new way of thinking and to actively remind yourself of it whenever the old patterns resurface.

Conclusion

In conclusion, while it is nearly impossible not to judge others, it is also possible to break the cycle of negative judgments. By understanding the roots of judgment and committing to a more positive and non-judgmental mindset, we can improve our interactions with others and cultivate a more compassionate and empathetic world. Remember, every change, no matter how small, is a step towards a better self and a better community.