The Dilemma of Social Withdrawal: Is Living Alone Always Unhealthy?

Lately, I have been feeling like withdrawing from my social life completely and living life alone. Is this healthy? While it is generally discouraged to live in isolation, the answer often lies in the individuals' unique circumstances and needs. Let's explore this phenomenon of social withdrawal, its psychological underpinnings, and the balance between social connectedness and personal well-being.

Understanding the Instincts and Needs of Social Beings

We are animals with instincts as well as culture. Our species often has an instinct to withdraw, both physically and socially, when we are hurt or overwhelmed. Simultaneously, however, we also have an innate instinct to connect with others. During periods of contraction, this desire to reconnect intensifies, especially when life demands are high.

The Role of Isolation and the Pain of Loneliness

It is often said that being alone is unhealthy. However, many individuals, including introverts, require significant alone time for regrouping and recharging. In my case, I cope by joining groups without deep individual connections, simply enjoying the company of others.

While research suggests that most individuals would likely live longer and enjoy better health with a more robust social network, it is crucial to remember that statistics do not always apply to every individual. Just as a tree is different from another, no one person is the “average person”. Thus, the decision on whether it is healthy to live alone ultimately lies within each individual's unique experience and circumstances.

The Benefits and Challenges of Isolation

Being alone can offer various benefits such as personal tranquility, increased individual productivity, and the ability to recharge. However, these benefits come with their own challenges. There are ebbs and flows in life, and sad days, happy days, productive days, and even days where you feel like a circle. Life is dynamic and not static.

For some, the pressure to socialize can be overwhelming. If this is the case, taking a week or so to separate and be alone for activities like reading, drawing, relaxing, hiking, or watching TV can be beneficial. Disconnecting from the internet and social media might alleviate some of the stress that comes with constant social interaction.

Beyond the Stereotypes of Introverts and Extroverts

Another common myth is that introverts are always boring. If 90 percent of all people are boring, why can't the other 10 percent be the fun and interesting ones? It is crucial to stop finding fault with everyone and find good in life, including ourselves. Everyone has unique qualities and strengths, and it is detrimental to judge based on broad stereotypes.

In conclusion, the concept of living alone is not a one-size-fits-all solution. Understanding our unique psychological and social needs, recognizing the pain of isolation, and embracing the ebbs and flows of life are essential. If social withdrawal is temporary and managed well, it can be a valuable and necessary part of self-care. However, it should serve as a tool, not a permanent solution.