The Challenges of Having a Crush on Someone in a Relationship: A Personal Story

Throughout the course of my life, I've experienced several instances where mere infatuation turned into a troublesome experience. Once, the person who became important to me for a period of time was the only one I really remember. There was also a case in high school that still lingers in my memory.

My Experiences

When I knew a person was already in a relationship, I often considered hooking up with them after they had broken up with their partner. If I were to engage in such a hookup with a female in a relationship, I wouldn't let my partner's ignorance be a hindrance. However, such scenarios were often less than ideal.

For instance, during high school, I developed a crush on this charming, pretty girl who was a few months younger than me. What was the catch? She was dating my best friend. Architecture in itself, it was quite a dilemma. Fast forward a few years, and we are now happily married with two kids. Ultimately, relationships can be complex and full of twists and turns.

A Lesson from a Crush

Let me share another situation in my younger years where I had a crush on someone who was also dating my friend. I found myself dating one boy while professing my feelings to another, and even "loving" another. Such a complicated state of affairs, to say the least. Initially attracted to the nice boy who treated me well, I eventually decided to date him based on my feelings, only for him to break my heart. The reason? He discovered the truth about my "love."

The boy who moved schools and was quiet and possibly depressed, told me "I love you" out of happiness, and I reciprocated with the same sentiment. However, our relationship was one-sided and ultimately headed in different directions. Hugs and hand-holding became a regular part of our connection, but it was strictly for the sake of happiness. This period was fraught with heartbreak.

Another Unsuccessful Crush

I've cherished another boy for two years, and only recently have I gathered the courage to express my feelings. I was heartbroken in a sweet way, but we remain friends as I am still in the process of recovering from the emotional trauma. A shared summer vacation with this boy also included a competitor, which was bound to stir up negative feelings, especially since I'm prone to jealousy.

Ultimately, I've realized that playing with the feelings of others is not worth it. It's hurtful to those around you and leaves lasting emotional scars. Each of these experiences has been a lesson for me, reminding me that relationships can be challenging, and the people involved are bound to get hurt.

Lessons Learned and Future Plans

2019 was a year filled with regret and disappointment. I've learned my lesson and am ready to move on. I recognize that I'm single now and am more focused on finding someone who will make my life better and provide unconditional love, support, and companionship.

In conclusion, it's crucial to respect others' feelings and not engage in the kind of infatuation that can lead to heartbreak. Seek healthy relationships and truly commit to the person you are with. Remember, all the people you hurt along the way can make things worse for you inside.