The Battle Against Workplace Bullying and Its Impact: A Personal Journey
I am leaving my job because my boss is a lying gaslighting libelous slanderous ignorant and stupid sociopath. My cardiovascular disease means I literally cannot afford to live in the constant state of elevated anger and hate that he keeps me in, and it's impossible to fight with him because he's been the single point of information about me to the higher ups.
This experience is not unique. I have left plenty of jobs due to a coworker or boss bullying me. The issue is not limited to one type of harassment either; I have witnessed sexual harassment as well. However, despite reporting these incidents, I was punished for standing up to the bully, which is unacceptable in this day and age.
Why Stand and Fight?
Some might suggest standing up and fighting back, but what is the point when the system seems to be rigged against you? My stance is simple: go to a job and tell me what's expected, and you'll work. If I do something wrong or not quite right, show me how to do it. I have worked in warehousing for two decades, and I know that you must beat the clock to keep your job. My records were over 100%, but I was told I should be 'barefoot and pregnant' and 'cook meals'—comments that were utterly offensive and demeaning.
These types of comments are indicative of the broader issue of verbal abuse and bullying, especially towards women who are often unfairly targeted. The environment is particularly challenging for women who do not have children and are thus perceived as being less 'useful' to society, and the discrimination can be both overt and subtle.
The Dangers of a Toxic Work Environment
Back in the 1980s until the 2000s, one could often resolve conflicts with intimidation or confrontation. However, the landscape has changed, and now such actions can result in termination or worse. Many companies seem to thrive on the drama and do nothing to address it, which can create a toxic work environment that is detrimental to mental and physical health.
For example, in the last warehouse job I had, which dealt with vegetables and some fruit, I was part of a team of two among four. I was told that my team needed to do all the work of the other two teams. Despite the team being older and more experienced, they were often distracted by their phones or just hanging out. Meanwhile, we had to cover their work and correct their mistakes. When it was time to promote, the younger team members got promoted, while I was passed over, and I decided to leave.
Impact of Long-term Workplace Bullying
The constant stress of dealing with such individuals can lead to burnout and demotivation. I have been bullied, sexually harassed, and talked down to or belittled by coworkers at every single job since mid-1990s. This can take a toll on both physical and mental health, and it can be extremely challenging to find a job that provides a sense of respect and security.
Recently, I left my last job as a caregiver due to the stress and hostility from a coworker. After responding to a question, I ended the conversation and quit when my husband realized how on edge I was. Sometimes, the best course of action is to quit and take control of your life.
Is it Worth Staying?
It's essential to ask yourself if the job you're in is worth the stress, bullying, and harassment. The current workplace climate makes it increasingly difficult for individuals to find a job where they are treated with respect and appreciation. It can feel like finding a short needle in a haystack—hopeless and fruitless.
For those who have faced similar situations, I wish you the best of luck. Find a company with a respectful and inclusive culture. It's time for workplaces to evolve and become places where everyone feels valued and supported.
Remember, you deserve a job where you can be happy, not a place where you're constantly on the defense.