The Attraction of Sociopaths: The Kinds of Women They Prefer to Date

Sociopaths, much like tigers, seek out the ldquo;weakrdquo; in the pack, but by ldquo;weakrdquo; I donrsquo;t mean someone is weak, but perhaps is vulnerable. When I first met my sociopathic ex, I felt heartbroken. He knew exactly what to say to comfort me, to know my sorrow, like he had free-range access to my mind. After years of struggling and needing help to escape, I was lucky. I hid for years.

Forgiving Women

These are the kinds of women who fancy themselves as their target: those that they find sexually attractive and useful, it is a bonus if they have a cool personality. In a typical ldquo;relationshiprdquo; mode, I have always preferred partners who are damaged. They are the most tolerant and the easiest to ldquo;managerdquo;.

Why Sociopaths Seek Out Vulnerable Women

From my experience, sociopaths are attracted to individuals who often have lower self-esteem, are easily trusting, and who seem needy. These characteristics make them tolerate inappropriate and irrational behaviors more because of their intense need for love. Take, for instance, Liz Kloepfer, Ted Bundyrsquo;s former girlfriend. She wrote about her experiences in her book, "The Phantom Prince." Desperate to provide her young daughter with a father figure and the legitimacy she felt was lacking due to her father not living locally, she was an ideal target for Bundy. He presented himself as the perfect guy for someone looking for a husband, while behind closed doors, his true personality was much uglier.

Control and Excitement

Similarly, killers like Paul Bernardo and David Parker Ray seek control over their victims, including their girlfriends. Other women, such as Karla Homolka and Cindy Hendy, are attracted to criminals due to hybristophilia, an attraction to criminals. Engaging in these criminal acts with their partners not only reignites their excitement and arousal but also gives them a sense of control over their lives.

Misalignment and Control

Throughout all these cases, a common thread emerges: sociopaths seek partners who are drainable. They want someone they can control and whose life they can take over with minimal effort. The goal is to feel like the most powerful person in their world, and finding women, sometimes several, over whom they can dominate brings them the most satisfaction.

Conclusion

Despite the allure of temporary comfort and control, the path of a sociopathrsquo;s target often ends in tragedy. It is a warning to those who may find themselves attracted to these individuals to be cautious and aware of the potential consequences.