Respecting and Admiring Opposite Gender: Insights from a Socially Challenged INTJ
Life as an INTJ, or Introverted Naive Intuitive Thinking Judging, can be a mixed bag. Despite my ability to navigate social challenges, there are times when I feel as if I'm decoding a secret message no one else understands. I relate most to INTJs, those rare individuals who share my mental framework and social nuances. However, my appreciation for the opposite gender and their unique qualities runs deep and sincere.
The Flow of Admiration: A Commitment Despite My Nonchalant Behavior
Perhaps the most admirable trait I see in a partner is the ability to go with the flow. Even when I'm distant, uncommunicative, or absent, my partner remains constant. She never knows what she will get, yet she always sticks with it and keeps going. This unwavering support and loyalty are what truly make her a keeper. This willingness to persevere through my sometimes unpredictable persona is a testament to her admirable character.
The Truth About Women’s Intuition: A Myth or Reality?
Women’s intuition is not a myth. It is a magical insight that every woman possesses and shares freely. I remember asking my wife about a particular car she had bought; specifically, a digital dash display. She explained it wasn’t the car itself that mattered but the simple phrase 'goodbye' when the engine was shut off. Her intuitions often fill the gaps where my logic falls short. Her understanding of me, despite my own confusion, is profoundly moving.
Grace in Strength and Appeal in Fit Bodies
While I acknowledge that I can understand and appreciate the appeal of physically stronger men, I must also acknowledge that women too possess unique strengths. Strength doesn't come only in the form of physical prowess; it also includes grace, beauty, and the ability to instill comfort. Curves, scent, and affectionate moments are just some of the qualities that make them fascinating.
The Heart-Warming Act of Helping
One of my fondest memories involves a situation in my hometown. It's a common belief that one should not take help from strangers, particularly for women. My mother adheres to this rule rigorously, and I could never understand her strictness until I faced a situation that challenged this belief. During my return from tuition classes one evening, my electric scooter ran out of charge, and I was forced to drag it nearly 5 to 6 kilometers. Along the way, two young boys attempted to help me, but I politely declined each time.
As I neared my home, a third boy came, and again, I refused his help. However, he continued to persuade me, and despite my reluctance, he managed to help me drag my scooter to my house. My mother witnessed this incident and scolded me for turning down help, emphasizing that the boys might fabricate the story and tell my father, likely with embellished details.
This experience highlighted the deep-seated societal beliefs about helping strangers, especially for women. However, it also reinforced my admiration for the opposite gender. The first two boys might have been hesitant due to cultural norms, but the third boy ignored these barriers and acted selflessly. His act of helping a stranger amidst potential adversity is something that epitomizes the admirable qualities I seek in both men and women.
Conclusion
Amidst my socially driven challenges, I have found that empathy, intuition, and selflessness are traits that both men and women embody. These qualities, while shared between the sexes, are often perceived and appreciated differently. By valuing these traits, I aim to foster a deeper understanding and respect for the opposite gender, recognizing the unique blend of strengths and vulnerabilities they bring to any relationship.