Relationships and Personal Rules
The journey of being in a relationship can be filled with complex and often conflicting beliefs and personal rules. This article delves into instances where such rules are broken and the profound realizations that come with them. A relatable experience for many, it serves as a reflective exploration of the nature of love, truth, and the constructs that govern human behavior.
Breaking My Strict Rule
In my personal experience, there exists a pervasive belief that staying out of one’s significant other’s sight for more than a month is unacceptable. This rule, stemming from a deep commitment to the relationship, was put to the test when planning for a future together became a crucial factor. The choice between abiding by this rule and pursuing a potentially better future for both parties became an inevitable conflict.
Consequently, despite the noble intentions of keeping a presence in her life, I had to temporarily go away for six months. This experience forced me to confront the inherent challenges in maintaining proximity and commitment in a evolving relationship, highlighting the importance of flexibility and adaptability in personal rules.
The Nature of Truth and Belief
The concept of truth and belief is often intertwined with our moral and emotional constructs. I was once confronted with the expectation to tell the truth, even at the risk of punishment. Over time, these directives led me to increasingly see truth as a jealous and horrible entity. My journey culminated in a profound realization that both truth and belief are merely auditory symbols that provide a sense of solidity and three-dimensionality to our brain’s perception, akin to a brick wall.
Redefining Reality
I discovered that emotions also serve as placeholders for reality, offering a tangible sense of existence to the brain. This understanding made me question the perceived solidity of truth and belief, leading me to conclude that they have no inherent reality but rather a brain-reality. This acceptance allowed me to let go of rigid expectations and embrace the fluidity of reality.
The Illusion of Control and Eternal Suffering
The pursuit of control through promises and commitments is a common yet misguided practice. We are all vulnerable to the allure of extending ourselves into the future, hoping for eternal joy or avoiding terror. However, this desire ultimately leads to eternal suffering, as each promise creates a cycle of anticipation and disappointment.
The Cycle of Accusation and Counter-Accusation
Our societal and relational dynamics are replete with accusations and counter-accusations, each driving fear and division. This cycle of accusation is driven by a deep-seated need to find a guilty party, so that we can obtain a sense of safety through punishment of the wrongdoer. Yet, this approach only serves to propagate a cycle of victimization and blame, without addressing the root causes of our actions.
The article concludes with a philosophical reflection on the nature of love, truth, and relationships, urging readers to view these constructs not as immutable laws, but as fluid and dynamic elements that evolve with our experiences and understanding.
Ultimately, the article emphasizes that true empathy and love are not about seeking truth or absolution but rather recognizing our shared humanity and the inherent worth of every individual.