Reflections on a Do-Over: Wiser Choices and Lessons Learned

Life is full of moments that shape us, often in unexpected ways. When given the chance for a “do-over,” many of us would make different choices. This article explores the wisdom gained from such reflections, drawing from personal experiences and the insights of someone who has lived a long and fulfilling life.

Love and Life Decisions

At the tender age of 23, I fell deeply in love with a young, sweet black nursing student. Our love was pure, but when he had to leave for a job in a distant place, our lives diverged. Regrettably, I did not choose him over my newfound career. This pivotal moment remains with me, a bittersweet reminder of youth and decisions made out of immaturity. If I could redo my life, I would undoubtedly put everything aside to be with him, a lesson that underscores the importance of prioritizing love and passion when one is young.

Achieving a Comfortable and Happy Life

Today, I am content because I have achieved most of my goals and experienced almost everything I desired. I’ve cultivated a life that aligns with my aspirations of living comfortably and happily. The transition from a period of uncertainty to a state of contentment teaches us that life’s journey is marked by growth and adaptation. While we may glance back at past choices, the overarching satisfaction comes from the present and the contributions it makes to our identity.

Harsher Realities: Self-Reflection and Taking Responsibility

As an 85-year-old retired missionary, I feel a profound satisfaction with my life. Reflecting on my final newsletter, I penned, “If I had it to do over again, I wouldn’t change a thing.” This sentiment resonates with the belief that each decision, whether positive or negative, contributes to shaping the person one eventually becomes. However, there are remedies for harmful actions. I would remove myself from the lives of a few individuals who caused me harm, primarily because I seek to heal and evolve. Conversely, there are also moments when adhering to unfavorable choices pays off. For instance, the people brought into my life through these choices are deeply significant, and I wouldn’t change them.

Actionable Insights: Making Better Decisions

Consider the following key lessons as you reflect on your life:

Remain True to Your Values: Stay committed to your principles, and don’t let external pressures dictate your choices. Forgive and Heal: Acknowledge the harm you’ve caused, seek to rectify it, and move forward. Embrace the Unforeseen: Some of the most meaningful experiences in life may arise from unexpected paths.

In conclusion, the concept of a “do-over” allows us to learn from our past and make better decisions in the future. It’s a journey of self-discovery, growth, and understanding. If I could start over, I would still make the same choices, knowing the positive impact they had on my life and the lives of others.