On Neopronouns in the LGBTQ Community: A Personal View

I would say yes. Neopronouns are ridiculous, and it has nothing to do with anything.

Maybe not a popular opinion, but I will own it. He/him, she/her, they/them, I will respect 100%. People are diverse, and I understand that. I will happily call you by your preferred pronouns as long as it exists within the English language. However, I refuse to refer to anyone as xe/xem zir/zem kitten/kittenself or any other nonsense made up by attention-seeking individuals. You will not dictate nor police my speech just because you weren’t hugged enough as a child.

Yes, snowflakes are unique, just like every other snowflake out there. In other words, you’re not that special just because you decide to make up words to differentiate yourself. You can live your best life the way you want, but don’t expect the rest of society to cater to your delusions and insecurities. Guess what, this insistence on demanding special treatment is more of a reflection on your self-entitled behavior than it is on the rest of us.

My Background and LGBTQ Community

First of all, I have to mention that I am gay. I'm just a biological man who loves another man intimately. I also have trans friends, they are usually easier to understand because I just address them with pronouns depending on whether they want to be treated as a feminine or masculine person. And we're friends because we get along with the same interests, topics, tastes, and movies, music, and all that friends stuff.

On the issue of neopronouns, it is creating a kind of civil war, internal conflict, and discord within the LGBTQ community. At first, I didn't care or wouldn't argue because I thought it wouldn't involve me. But then eventually, I met one. This acquaintance who identifies as non-binary uses specific neopronouns. We rarely meet, and initially, I respected their supposed choice of pronouns. However, every time we do meet, I actually keep forgetting their pronouns and I keep asking for it each time we do meet because they just ain't special enough in my life for me to exclusively remember them. Because of this, we end up not getting along because of me “misgendering” them, which they think is intentional, but it’s just sort of created a mild bad blood between us.

So for me, it was really just easy to ignore and not get involved with them or maybe just refer to them by name. Easy as that.

That being said, if we normalize these outrageous neopronouns, I don’t think I’ll be able to handle meeting another three or more people with unique neopronouns. I don’t think I’ll care about memorizing them if we don’t get along. I can only imagine that inside their heads, they are going like, "Why can't everyone understand me? Why can't anyone respect me? Why can't anyone get along with me?" This is just starting to become a narcissistic play. It's just sad that you yourself are intentionally creating a situation that excludes you from other people. You are making yourself too different, and you eventually get depressed, commit suicide, and well, will anybody care about you in the end?

Reflections on the Issue

As a gay person, it’s quite understandable to have that feeling of being excluded or shunned by people. I am fortunate to have good friends around me, as well as being a part of the understanding and accepting LGBTQ community. That being said, people within this community shouldn’t take that for granted and feed into their ego. This experience of mine was fortunately just some personal issues with this person. But if we let this social issue grow any further, it could affect more than just social interactions. It could even affect professional courtesy in working areas and the relationship between "special" employees and others. Heck, I have seen news of American kids committing school shootings because of misgendered pronouns.

It's important to remember that while diversity and inclusivity are crucial, there should be a balance. Excludative behavior and over-the-top insistence on neopronouns can lead to more harm than good. Social harmony and understanding are key, and it's essential to address these issues thoughtfully and respectfully to create a more inclusive and accepting society.