Managing Anger: Is Punching and Breaking Things Typical?

Anger can be a powerful emotion that often leads to startling physical actions. Many of us wonder whether it is common to break things or hit something when angry, and if such behavior is really acceptable or morally right. Often, after the moment has passed, we regret the damage caused and feel an ethical need to control our impulses.

Normal, but Not Healthy

When people get angry, their body often seeks a physical release, even if their rational mind feels regret later. It is not uncommon, and while this behavior is normal, it is not always healthy or ethical. In my experience as a hand therapist, I regularly treated young men who had punched walls and broken their bones. These individuals were often not prone to fighting or had just started their first few years of marriage. They were almost always dealing with arguments with their spouse or workplace stress.

Safely Relieving Anger

It is essential to find a healthy way to release anger without regret. Here are some activities you can try to safely let go of your frustration:

Rip Paper: Rip up pieces of paper, a magazine, or cardboard and throw them into the trash can. Punch a Pillow or Mattress: Punch a pillow or mattress to release your anger. Make sure it's not near any breakables. Build Something: Chop wood, hammer nails, or engage in construction work to release energy. Physical Exercise: Go for a run or engage in any form of physical activity that intensifies your heart rate. Verbal Venting: During moments of intense anger, you can growl, mutter, or pretend to lecture a lamppost or tree. Psychological Walks: Take a walk and kick a soda can or errant object. Kick it hard but carefully to avoid any real damage.

After the adrenaline has subsided, you'll feel relief, and you'll have nothing to regret. It's also a great time to reflect on why you felt so frustrated and angry, free from guilt and shame.

When Anger Management is Needed

Anger management isn't just for those who repeatedly break things. If your anger issues are causing problems in your relationships at home or work, seeking professional help can be extremely beneficial. You can start by searching for "anger management" online, where you will find many resources to read and watch. These resources can provide you with basic strategies to manage your anger in a healthier way.

If you believe your anger issues have already caused serious problems in your relationships, you might need to seek professional guidance in the form of counseling. Many communities offer support groups led by professionals where you can openly discuss your feelings in a safe environment.

Seeking help is a strength, not a weakness. While it might be embarrassing at first, you will be viewed in high esteem by those who work in the area. They will be eager to assist you in finding healthier ways to deal with your anger, thus reducing fear and improving your overall well-being.