Have You Ever Hugged a Narcissist?

Have you ever hugged a narcissist? In my experience, it's more akin to hugging those cardboard standup figures movie theaters use. While I may have read extensively about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and the characteristics of other personality disorders, I am not medically qualified to diagnose anybody let alone a narcissist.

Spotting a Narcissist

Nonetheless, over the years, I have come across several individuals who I suspect to possess some pathological traits. One person fit the profile of an unhealthy Type 2 Enneagram, another displayed traits of Histrionic Personality Disorder, and yet another was a malignant narcissist. I can confidently say that I would not have wanted to hug any of them. The aura of the suspected malignant narcissist was so repulsive that I would barely tolerate being in the same room with her. On the other hand, the suspected histrionic was very touchy-feely, but I always kept my distance. Her enthusiasm about chasing her nieces and nephews for hugs made me dislike her, especially since she had no children of her own and seemed insensitive to people's boundaries.

Given that narcissists often disregard other people's personal boundaries, it's very likely that if I were in an intimate relationship with a narcissist, they might attempt to force an unwanted hug in front of an audience. This could be a profoundly manipulative tactic, designed to make me appear as the villain for asserting my right to personal space.

The Euphoric Experience

Yes, and to be brutally honest, it was euphoria. I remember the first time I hugged the narcissist, I knew that I wanted to be with this person forever. It sounds illogical and even made up, but it was the absolute truth. Having never experienced true love, I had to rely on stories and descriptions to understand what it feels like. Until it happens, some people might go through their entire lives without experiencing that feeling—well, as bizarre as it seems, I knew from that single hug.

How I can describe it is that it felt like my entire...

Understanding Narcissism

Narcissism can be a complex and multifaceted condition, often characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for excessive admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. Those with NPD may have a deep need for attention and approval, but they also tend to devalue and dismiss others. Understanding these traits can help one recognize the importance of setting and asserting personal boundaries, especially in relationships.

For those navigating relationships or encountering individuals who display these traits, recognizing and understanding narcissism is crucial. It can help in setting clear boundaries, maintaining self-respect, and seeking support when necessary.

Personal Boundaries and Safety

Recognizing the importance of personal boundaries is vital in any relationship, particularly with someone who may exhibit narcissistic traits. Setting boundaries can protect one's emotional and physical well-being, as well as maintain a healthy relationship dynamic. If you are dealing with someone who disregards your personal boundaries, it's important to communicate your needs clearly and assertively.

For those who may be living with or around a narcissist, it can be advantageous to build a support network of friends and family who can provide emotional support and practical assistance. Additionally, professional guidance from a therapist or counselor can be invaluable in navigating such relationships and understanding one's feelings and actions.

Community and Support

Finally, it's important to draw upon the strength and support of communities and online resources. Platforms like Quora, forums, and support groups provide a space where individuals can share their experiences and learn from others who have similar situations. It's crucial to surround yourself with individuals who offer love, understanding, and encouragement as you navigate your journey.