Are You a Koreaboo if You Want to Embrace Korean Culture Without Monolids?

Recently, I learned about the 'single eyelid' situation from a dear friend. This keyword is recently.

Personal Perspective and Cultural Acceptance

I am a 48-year-old male of Caucasian descent, living in a Western country. As a Westerner, I didn't initially perceive the 'single eyelid' as a matter that needs to be addressed.

From my perspective, some people have these features naturally, and the beauty in them cannot be denied. I find it interesting to learn about the beauty standards of Eastern societies, which I wouldn't have assumed were such concerns.

Respecting Identity and Cultural Diversity

My stance is clear: I neither judge, scold, nor tell people what to do with their bodies. There could be medical reasons for getting the surgery, but accepting what one is given and seeing the beauty in it is another valid option.

Challenging Group Think and Stereotypes

It's important to be weary of group think in any culture. Most of the time, the positive outcomes do not outweigh the negative ones.

Self-Acceptance and Cultural Appreciation

I wish you and your friend a clearer perspective and the ability to accept oneself. It’s crucial to love and appreciate the person you are.

I, too, was not born Korean, but I have spent nearly 30 years in Seoul. From my experience, Korea thrives beautifully without the influence of foreigners wanting to emulate Korean culture.

Take note: if non-Koreans insist on obsessing over aspects of Korean culture, feigning Korean-ness, and denying their own culture, they may be considered 'Koreaboo.' This term has been discussed in various contexts.

Understanding Korean Culture and Identity

Sometimes, it’s perplexing how someone would associate 'being Korean' with having single eyelids. In fact, only 33% of the Korean population naturally have double eyelids. Wishing to be Korean because of one physical feature, especially when the majority do not possess it, is a bit silly.

For example, my wife's father's side is a massive natural double-eyelid group, while her mother's side is the opposite. Interestingly, both of her siblings have double eyelids, even though her nephews and nieces do not.

Yet, Koreans do not equate having or not having double eyelids as a part of their essential identity. Any changes to one's face would not alter their true identity and personality.

So, embrace your natural features and be proud of who you are. Welcome to the double or single eyelid party, everyone is invited!